Forgiveness…
Forgiveness, without borders, conditions, or even keeping score. Yep, this isn’t a child’s playground where you say you will forgive and it shows up more like a sugar high from a candy bar.
How do you really, I a mean, really show up in life, like Mother Teresa and forgive. Forgive someone who truly has broken your heart? You know, those feelings of pain: like you are going to vomit, weak at the knees, lack of appetite. Those in-depth feelings of hurt when someone offends you or insults you in some way, shape, or form. HOW DO YOU FORGIVE AND LET GO?
Forgive without Agenda
Forgive without all of your personal baggage; because he/she did this etc. FORGIVE without any agenda! Try it, but first, it takes a lot of personal growth-peace work, DAILY!
Matthew 6:14,15 sites, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your Heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Hmmmm sounds like God is keeping score? NOT AT ALL! This is how I view this, here on Earth and spirituality:
When we live in the unforgiving land of regret, hate, spite, and jealousy, we build that fortress around us so thick that it becomes the wall of hell. Our health goes to shit – mentally, physically and definitely spiritually. We walk evil, negativity, lack, disease and what I really mean here is DIS-ease with one’s self. We run from those horrible, painful emotions, so we become hollow on the inside. This is where everything in life goes astray because we are walking that path, we look for all the bad crap. We sell ourselves down the road for money, live in greed and have one hell of an ego to boot!
The Rabbit Hole
We take on a language of this: “Oh I don’t have any luck, things have always been so hard for me, why should I do this, people are just crazy and mean. Blah, blah, blah! That dark, gloomy rabbit hole where we eat, live and breathe is the essence of UNGRATEFULNESS! The only room is left in that hole is darkness, doom, and gloom.
I lived it, to the point of comparing myself to others – lacking passion and zest for life, so I fell asleep while driving. My rabbit hole was sleep to escape dealing with ME! Negativity became my BFF, and there wasn’t any room for gratitude.
Gratitude is the attitude! (Wow just typing that really shifts my whole demeanor.) Try it; pretend you are in school. You have detention and have to write on a board one hundred times, GRATITUDE IS THE ATTITUDE. Feel into how you shift. The peace ignites!
Back to my scripture (and yes it is my scripture because I say Jesus Christ is my rock and roll husband with the long hair). God cannot forgive us for our sins when we do not forgive others because the wall has been built to keep Him out. Think about this…We do not turn to Him, we take all this ‘stuff’ on by ourselves and attract others that do the same. (I hear a pity party here.)
One Step at a Time
Gratitude changed my life, and I begin every day like this: wake up, open eyes, look at the drywall and say, “Thank You so much for the drywall over my head.”
Begin, one-step at a time to find your way to peace and gratitude…and NOT just around the holidays! Let your heart bask in peace and gratitude every single day! And do not just TRY it, DO IT, as Nike says! Remember that first, you will have to slooooooow way down to feel this. The operative word here is FEEL, not think!
Breathe deeply, three times, and find your gratitude, then your personal peace will awaken within.
Your self-confidence will strengthen, and your worth will be priceless-spiritually. Ease, grace, hope, and faith will be like brushing your teeth in the morning. Life will become peaceful and joyful. Overwhelm, anxiety, and worrying will be reduced. You will compare less, and gain more time. Who the hell wouldn’t want that? WOW!
Eliminate packing that plate, you know, the plate that is so full you cannot even carry it to the table. Yes, that plate. The plate of life that keeps getting fuller, while you move faster than a whirling dervish. That plate of exhaustion will get you nowhere.
Peace awaits you. Now it is up to you and a higher power….
What will it be?
I leave you with this peace of scripture:
Instead be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. ~ Ephesians 5:32
Peace & Love,
Kim
I work on this a lot. A huge part for me, is letting go of ego. Ego says “You have a right to be mad. This person wronged you, don’t tolerate it! They hurt you so get even by not letting it go.”
In my view, ego is Satan and he can lead you to your own personal hell. Only by treating others the way you want to be treated, not judging (lest you be judged), and forgiving as you have been forgiven, can you find redemption, or “heavenly peace.”
Priceless words, Thea! Priceless!
Forgiveness is a difficult thing. It almost seems at times that we want to stew in our anger, to let it fester and grow, to let it overtake US so that, ultimately, we begin to feel sorry for ourselves. It’s a vicious cycle. However, having a forgiving spirit can set us free. Cliche, I know, but it’s true. I struggle in the beginning moments of the hurt or wrong with forgiveness; then, I begin to think and believe that I can’t let the malfeasance ruin my day, my week, my life… Forgive.
Thanks for the reminder, Kim.
You are very welcome, Valerie. And we are human, it is okay to stew a bit, it is all a part of growing and our emotions. It is when we stay here for a long time is when we get what we do not want or desire!
Being willing (and able) to forgive is very important. This does not mean we forget what happened but does bring a level of acceptance. Of course, the first person that we need to forgive is ourselves.
Well said, Elise and a priceless comment here! xo
Forgiveness is a journey that we constantly have to take in our lives. there are so many levels of forgiveness that lead to deeper levels of release. What I learned over the past 6 months is
Rather than blaming somebody for hurting you in the past, why not choose to understand them instead?
By blaming we are left with bitterness, hurt, an open wound that leaves us living with unforgiveness and anger.
By understanding, we choose to be open, see it from their perspective, love, heal, forgive and live a life of peace within.
In the end, we have to be thankful for every experience in life because it brought us to who we are today, so if we choose to understand the bad as well as the good it rids unforgiveness.
Yes Kate, it is a practice and a choice left up to us and a higher power. No other way.
This is so important! I believe talking it out is the best way to solve most problems. (Difficult though when you are dealing with someone who would rather argue about it).
Oh yes, emotions, emotions, emotions and then someone who believes they are right…recipe for a lose/lose situation.
Amen. I was explaining gratitude on one of my many ling drives yesterday to Dylan. Love it.
You are such a great mom, Lynn!
We all need reminders about this! I’m going to try and tackle gratitude more on a daily basis.
Awesome Rachel. Keep me posted on your progression!
Forgiving is hard! I had to change myself and change how I looked at the situation in order to really forgive.
Beautifully said, Bri! That was priceless.
i find it hard to forgive sometimes. always do in the end but it’s the trust that you lose and that can be the hardest to gain back.
Yes I agree, trust, but with that you now know where that other person stands.
Kim I am so bad at forgiveness! It’s something I’ve said time and time again I need to get better at but I really hold onto stuff and I have no idea why!
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You are welcome!